In my relationship with God, I believe I am loved for who I am. Not only am I loved for who I am, I am also one of two that defines what the relationship looks like.
It is tempting to visualize a scorecard and plot "where I stand with God. That would be okay if God were my employer and giving me my yearly review to determine how much of a raise I should get.
I don't see God that way. It is truly a relationship and that involves conversations as to the meaningful components of the relationship. It really is between me and God. If we are in agreement with those components, then I can continue forward.
When our 4th child was born, we had a routine down in terms of what my job was in the labor room. My job was to raise or lower the volume on the TV when the contractions hit. Any other talking distracted my wife so I kept my communication to a minimum.
The nurse who came in looked frustrated at me that I wasn't being a good coach and would sit by my wife "demonstrating" what I should be doing. When she left, my wife would tell me that she had the strongest urge to smack the nurse. In our relationship we had worked out what needed to be done to allow us to move on in our lives. It doesn’t matter what the nurse thought; we were in sync. And that is what really mattered.
So I don't sound like I am twisting in the existential wind, following my analogy of my marriage relationship, there are some things that work better for marriage across the board, and following it is better than not following it, but ultimately it is an agreement between my wife and me as to how we are going to conduct ourselves in this relationship.
Isn't that the meaning of relationship?
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