I know someone in my life that when he gets sentimental, has to have everyone stop and savor the significance of the situation. It is uncomfortable, to put it mildly.
I am all for being in the moment and being moved by life. What I am not into is having someone else demand that I stop and be mindful of the moment, especially when I am not feeling the same thing.
That is evidence of enmeshment, poor boundaries between people. If a person is moved by a moment, he or she should be moved. Demanding that I be moved by the moment, even when I have no such feelings is rude. If I act as if I am moved by the moment when I am not, then I am a liar!
I put this person in the same category as the one who believes it is their job to make sure all are obeying the speed limit. If I obey the speed limit, it is by my own choice. I don't appreciate someone who is purposely driving slower to force compliance. It's not their job, and I resent the one who takes it on as their job. The police are out there and they have been given the task of vehicle safety.
We should be overwhelmed by wonder, but I will not be coerced into feeling wonder. It's dishonest.
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